Every age is a problem. Iron age, bronze age, the Computer age, modern age, Old age, childhood is a problem. Teenage is another problem. Life is full of situations, what we cannot solve becomes a problem for us. Sometimes, it may be tough to believe, the teenager is not a foreigner, being from a far-off planet. But they may be wired in another way. The only problem is that we, as a parent always want them to be same as they were a few years back. And this is what is not digestible.
Teenager's mind is mounting; therefore they act differently than an adult's brain. The frontal cortex? the part of the brain used to manage emotions, make decisions, reason, and control inhibitions?is modernized during the teenage years, forming fresh synapses at an incredible rate, while the whole brain does not reach full maturity until about the mid-'20s.
Teenage? A worry of every parent
Every
age is a problem. Iron age, bronze age, the Computer age, modern age, Old age,
childhood is a problem. Teenage is another problem. Life
is full of situations, what we cannot solve becomes a problem for us. Sometimes, it may be tough to believe, the teenager is
not a foreigner, being from a far-off planet. But they may be wired
in another way. The only problem is that we, as a parent always want them to be
same as they were a few years back. And this is what is not digestible.
Teenager's mind is mounting; therefore they act differently
then an adult's brain. The frontal cortex? the part of the brain used to manage
emotions, make decisions, reason, and control inhibitions are modernized during
the teenage years, forming fresh synapses at an incredible rate, while the
whole-brain does not reach full maturity until about the mid-'20s.
Children,( just before becoming teens) look for you, ask for
every single thing, do what you want, and in all seek permission from you. And
mistakenly we think our child is Magical. It takes 14- 15 years for a child to cross-questioning. And that stage, we begin to
question our upbringing. That painful moment when a child makes you realize that
there are more people who are more important than you.
If we want to be somebody, for the new fresh life which has
come, you must not have defined boundaries of who you are? Like the way you crawled with your child, it's
time to swing with them. Don't deal with your Teenagers; make yourself
available to be dealt with by them. Make them responsible for everything. One day
you will have the courage to hand over one month's salary to handle the house.
Your teen may be taller than you and seem
mature in some respects, but often they are simply unable to think things
through on an adult level. Hormones produced during the physical changes of
adolescence can further complicate things. Now, these biological differences
don't excuse teens? poor behavior or absolve them from accountability for their
actions, but they may help explain why teens behave so impulsively or frustrate
parents and teachers with their poor decisions, social anxiety, and
rebelliousness. Understanding adolescent development can help you find ways to
stay connected to your teen and overcome problems together.
It's also significant to keep in mind that
while teenagers are individuals with exclusive personalities and their own
likes and dislikes, some traits are universal. No matter how much your teen
seems to extract from you emotionally, no matter how free your teen appears, or
how bothered your teen becomes, they still need your attention and to feel
loved by you.
This never-ending journey
of making him/her a good person is always in the hands of a parent. If a person
is good, the credit always goes to parents and vice versa.
"If
they are lucky they will survive, through backstabbers, broken hearts, failures
and all the kinds of invisible insane pressures out there".
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