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अभी त्योहारों के दिन चल रहे हैं और इन दिनों मैं हर लड़की सुंदर दिखना चाहता है या लड़की तो अपनी पसंदीदा अभिनेत्री के जैसे भी दिखना चाहता है। लेकिन खूबसुरत दिखने के लिए आपको सही मेकअप के बारे में जानकारी होना बहुत जरूरी है।
क्योकी बहुत सी लड़कियों को मेकअप करने की सही जानकारी नहीं होती है। अगर आप के पास मेकअप करने का सभी समान हो लेकिन अगर उससे आप सही तरह से मुझे ना ला पाए तो उनका होना बेकर हो जाता है।
सिर्फ मेकअप का समान होने से आप सुंदर नहीं दिख सकता है, बाल्की आपको करने का सही तारिका भी पता होना चाहिए तो सही मेकअप का इस्तेमाल करने के लिए ये टिप्स।
मेकअप की बात की जाए तो कंटूर मेकअप एक सबसे अनोखा मेकअप है। इसे मेकअप आर्टिस्ट बहुत ही प्यार से या अपनी ट्रिक से करते हैं। इस मेकअप को करने से आपके स्किन पर बेस्ट कर्व्सअभी त्योहारों के दिन चल रहे हैं और इन दिनों मैं हर लड़की सुंदर दिखना चाहता है या लड़की तो अपनी पसंदीदा अभिनेत्री के जैसे भी दिखना चाहता है। लेकिन खूबसुरत दिखने के लिए आपको सही मेकअप के बारे में जानकारी होना बहुत जरूरी है।क्योकी बहुत सी लड़कियों को मेकअप करने की सही जानकारी नहीं होती है। अगर आप के पास मेकअप करने का सभी समान हो लेकिन अगर उससे आप सही तरह से मुझे ना ला पाए तो उनका होना बेकर हो जाता है।सिर्फ मेकअप का समान होने से आप सुंदर नहीं दिख सकता है, बाल्की आपको करने का सही तारिका भी पता होना चाहिए तो सही मेकअप का इस्तेमाल करने के लिए ये टिप्स।मेकअप की बात की जाए तो कंटूर मेकअप एक सबसे अनोखा मेकअप है। इसे मेकअप आर्टिस्ट बहुत ही प्यार से या अपनी ट्रिक से करते हैं। इस मेकअप को करने से आपके स्किन पर बेस्ट कर्व्स बन जाते हैं और आपके प्योर स्किन की लुक ही बदल जाता है।जब आप मेकअप को करते हैं तो आपकी स्किन में बदला जा सकता है, जैसा आपका फेस सर्कल है तो मेकअप से आपके फेस को लंबा किया जा सकता है।
बन जाते हैं और आपके प्योर स्किन की लुक ही बदल जाता है।
जब आप मेकअप को करते हैं तो आपकी स्किन में बदला जा सकता है, जैसा आपका फेस सर्कल है तो मेकअप से आपके फेस को लंबा किया जा सकता है।
कंटूर मेकअप आपकी स्किन को सही शेप देने में अहम रोल निभाता है। लेकिन आपका कंटूर मेकअप सही से नहीं किया गया हो तो ये बहुत ही ज्यादा अनाकर्षक और अनाकर्षक दिखलाई देता है। इस मेकअप को करने के लिए आपकी पूरी स्किन की शेप समाजी पड़ती है तकी आपका मेकअप अच्छा दिख रहा है।
Post updated on: Aug 13, 2021 7:56:27 AM
He had once thought it was strange to have a friend you'd never met. Now it was even stranger losing a friend you'd never really had.
- Tad williams
Sometimes you meet a person, and you click! You are so comfortable with them as if you have known them your whole life. You need not be anything. You can be just you!
Have you ever played "find a way" as a child? How ecstatic you used to feel when you found the way finally? This is the same way I felt when I met her once as if sailing in the same boat. We both had our different dream plans, our lifestyles were also different.... But that's what makes us "the friends.... Across distance, forever together." We instantly got connected as lost friends.
After that single meet, we knew each other inside out.
I don't say a thing but everything I expect from her is right here by my side.
I'm only me when I'm with her....
I don't hide my tears, my secrets or my deepest fears....
I'm only up when she is not down...
And I don't want to fly high if she is still on the ground...
I had learnt to make a home inside my own head... Where you can find only her memories, her love, which goes along whereever I journey.
A part of my prayers belongs to her.
A portion of my heart belongs to her and carries the essence of our friendship.
It may not sound anything exceptional, many people have long distance relationships or friendships. But for someone like me, it feels so satisfying. It feels surreal that someone out is there, to hear me at any hour of the day. She has become an integral part of my life. She is an amazing soul, no words would ever describe her. She has changed my life for better but still she cannot be my better-half.
Some relations are not meant to be together, and require loose ends. We share a beautiful chemistry. We can be just ourselves, without any fear of losing each other. There is a crystal clear understanding between us, and we don't even have to make it complicated.
Some relationships don't need years to grow. Some just come into your life and stay till eternity. I have been through my darkest phase of life, and would have surely fallen like pack of cards, if I wouldn't have met her. She heard me when I needed the most and stayed with me, when everything else was driving me insane. I cherish each and every moment of my life with her.... distance is never the factor as long as we are connected.
We are looking forward to our type of meet/date some day with two cappuccinos!! 😊
Post updated on: Aug 12, 2021 5:41:52 PM
It was too late when I revealed my general anxiety issue at work. It turned into a weakening depression and I couldn't even write a basic email any longer, much less execute my tough job. My previously outstanding performance had decreased quite markedly, causing me to disclose the facts uncomfortably and finally force me to leave.
In retrospect, a simple accommodation may have avoided all this early on, sparing me significant personal pain and the extra workload of my organization.
What I did not know at that time is that up to 80% of people, whether or not they know it, endure a diagnosable mental health issue throughout their lives. The prevalence of symptoms from C to individual contributors is the same, while over 60% of employees never talked to anybody about their mental health status at work. Many high performers, particularly worried performers like me, have strengths that often stem from these issues. I wasn't almost as alone as I was thinking.
Mental health is a spectrum that, like physical health, we all go back and forth. Most of us bounce between stress, breakdown, and diagnosable illnesses, such as depression or anxiety according to what happens in our lives. While bipolar disorder may feel harder to reveal than burnout, everyone should have a relationship at some level.
This was never more true than in the last 18 months with pandemic pressures, racial trauma, and more. Managers, direct reports, and colleagues are more vulnerable and authentic than ever because of common difficulties to society and the confusion of personal and professional people and remote work. We also had the courage of Simone Biles, Naomi Osaka, Prince Harry, and Meghan Markle. They chose not only to reveal in public their struggles of mental health but also to make difficult decisions that placed their well-being first.
However, the impacts of stigma may still be widespread. My self-stigma told me that my anxiety and depression were weak and I should be ashamed. Social stigma advised me that if I were to confess, I would be judged and professionally. But since in recent years I have widely revealed my condition, none of these things have happened. I have established Mind Share Partners, a not-for-profit organization that focuses on transforming the culture of mental health at work. Here is what we recommend if a mental health condition is being revealed at work.
Comprehension: Self-reflect
First of all, analyze what you are experiencing and how your work performance, your mood, and other things are affected. What is the impact duration? Is it a momentary blip, a longer but episodic issue, or a chronic disease in a few days' time? Think about the causes of your symptoms if they're not usually there. Was it related to work, something in your life, or a macro stressor?
For me, with minimal self-reflection these elements were evident. I started a new work many months earlier with a short team. For the first time in my life, I was unable to do what I requested of me. Besides that, due to my new commute, I had left my anxiety medications and could not see my therapist often. Given all, I should've seen her more regularly. I had gone from being a high-performance, happy coworker to an aloof, far from competent person. It didn't take me much to put everything together. That said, others may have complicated narratives that will benefit from conversations with their families, friends, or therapists.
Determination: Consider context and resources
I wish I had decided to share enough to acquire accommodation straight off the floor, or that my organization had fostered flexibility to prevent me from requiring one. All I needed was authorization from my employer to attend my therapist during the working day, which I found difficult considering my long journey. It would have meant that employees would only be allowed to come late once a week or work from home on Fridays only after their first six months. But I didn't follow this basic accommodation, given my own self-stigma and my false worry of what my manager may think. Sometimes I wonder how things would have turned out if I had linked my need to leave the office as a weekly allergy shot to physical health conditions.
At that time, mental health at work wasn't on anybody's radar. Nobody spoke freely about it or had workouts on how to traverse it. Now, indicators of whether your organization, the HR team, or the mental health manager supports are more likely.
First, analyze the culture of your firm. Did leaders talk about mental health? Does your firm offer mental health training in the workplace? Is there a resource group for mental health employees (ERG)?
Then think about your manager being a safe and supportive person. Have you discussed your own mental health or have you mentioned other personal challenges? This kind of sincerity fosters confidence and can tell. Consider whether your manager has psychologically healthy behaviors, including frequent exercise, sleep, and holidays. This might assist you to determine with whom and how much to communicate.
Then learn about the safeguards and advantages that you have a legal right to as an employee. For example, in the United States, companies with 15 or more employees have to provide reasonable accommodations by law. Resources and legal safeguards differ by region, so verify your local rules if feasible. In this way, if your manager or HR fails, you can argue for yourself.
Finally, consider the resources and support you need, whether it's access to mental health, official accommodation, or something easier. Who is this resource "owns?" It may be HR, your manager, or somebody else. Consider what your sharing goals are.
Preparation: Explore your degree of comfort
How comfortable are you sharing? How much do you have to share in order to attain your goal? If you are close to your manager, this might be as extensive as your diagnosis and history. Or it could be just as minimal as, "I had a pandemic time. Is it all OK if I take off Monday and Tuesday?"
As a new hire, still trying to establish me and frightened of my professional effects, I didn't want to talk about my anxiety diagnosis at the outset. However, I would very probably have achieved my aim of flexible working hours by disclosing considerably less in my therapy appointments.
If you don't talk to your manager comfortably, you could want to talk to HR or another management. It is crucial to have a sense of psychological security with anyone you choose. Note that your Direct Manager is generally expected not to be punitive, but to guarantee consistency among managers and access to the entire range of services to communicate information about employee health effects with HR.
Consider in greater detail what specific tools or solutions you think are most helpful for flexible work. Maybe you want them in your discourse ready to be named. Examples include everything from routine sessions for therapy to more frequent checks to "offline hours" or protected working time.
You will also want to turn to safe input spaces if you're like me. Since when I decided to reveal, I was already in the throes of anxiety and depression, my cognition did not permit me to resolve problems or make decisions like normal. So, alongside my husband, parents, and therapist, I brainstormed it all. Others may seek guidance from a trustworthy coworker, friend, mental health, neurodiversity, or ERG.
Sharing: Start the talk
Once you have agreed to share your story, set up a private time to communicate with each other. Budget more time than you think you're going to need so the chat isn't short. Be transparent about the influence your issues in mental health have on your work. If the cause is relevant to employment, share it as well.
Come with suggestions as far as feasible for how your manager or HR can help you. Have ideas on what adjustments or resources you might find useful. These can be widespread. Examples include: "I am okay now, but it would be useful if I ever need them to know what resources are accessible," and "A discussion on working styles would assist to establish some clarity around our standards and to alleviate stress." This simple sharing habit is frequently all that is necessary for you and your team members to accomplish their best. Always feel free to propose to co-create a solution with your manager and HR ? it is not up to you to answer all the questions.
Just as you expect your manager or HR to have empathy with you, attempt to have empathy for them. While you may have thought very carefully about this, this is probably news for them. You may not be all right in the conversation, but you probably have good intentions. Give them grace and let them spend some time with the next moves. Ensure that you have a follow-up time.
As many of us are coming back to work, I hope that we will not fall back into all of our old patterns of work. I hope that firms and managers will facilitate the disclosure of employees' mental health difficulties and the co-creating of solutions to make them prosper. I hope that we will take the chance to remain vulnerable and real, as recent developments have required. Let's provide a thorough, honest answer to "How are you, rather than answering, "I'm okay?" We are all suffering from something, large or small. We merely have to inform each other.
Post updated on: Aug 12, 2021 9:53:08 AM
लड़की हो या लड़की त्वचा में ब्लैकहेड्स की समस्या किसी को भी हो सकती है। ये हमारी त्वचा की सुंदरता को काम कर देती है और इतना ही नहीं येहमारे लिए हानिकारक भी होती है। कभी-कभी परेशन होके हम इसे दबकर निकले की कोशिश करते हैं, जो की हानिकारक भी हो सकता है।
लोगो को ऐसा लगता है कि ब्लैकहेड्स बहार की धूल, तनाव, नींद की कमी, स्वच्छता में कामी और शरीर में पोषक तत्वों की कमी होने की वजह से होता है। लेकिन ऐसा नहीं है। जब सेबम या त्वचा की कोशिकाओं हवा से मुझसे संपर्क करें, तो हैं टैब इस्के ऑक्सीकरण की वजह से ब्लैकहेड्स हो जाते हैं।ये तब होता है, जब आपकी स्किन के पोर्स ओपन हो जाते हैं और ऑक्सीकरण स्किन को काला बना देता है। ये पाया गया है की पुरुषों के तुलना में महिलाओं के ब्लैकहेड्स होने पर ज्यादा परशान हो जाती हैं। इसी राहत पाना थोड़ा मुश्किल होता है, लेकिन असंभव नहीं है। इससे राहत के लिए कफी ऊपर होते हैं।
एक्सट्रैक्टर का सुरक्षित उपयोग
अगर आप ब्लैकहेड्स को अपने हाथ से निकलने का ट्राई करते हैं, तो ये आपकी स्किन पर मार्क छोड सकती है। ऐसे में एक्सट्रैक्टर के सेफ यूज से बिना मार्क्स के आप क्लियर स्किन पा सकते हैं। स्टेप बाय स्टेप जेन ब्लैकहेड्स हटाने का सबसे अच्छा तरीका।
1. अपनी त्वचा के रोमछिद्रों को खोलें
एक्सट्रैक्टर का इस्तेमाल करने से पहले ब्लैकहेड्स को क्लीन करने से इसे दूर करना आसान होता है। 2 से 3 मिनट तक गर्म और गीले तौलिये से स्किन कवर से फिर त्वचा पर स्टीम लेने से पोर्स ओपन हो जाते हैं।
2. हाथ साफ करें या दस्ताने पहनें
अपने हाथो को फेस के कॉन्ट्रेक्ट में आने पर बैक्टीरिया से बचने के लिए हाथो को अच्छे से धो कर ले। हां एक्सट्रैक्टर का इस्तेमाल करने के लिए अपने हाथ में दस्ताने पहनने चाहिए। इस तरह, आप ब्लैकहेड्स हटा सकते हैं।
3. ब्लैकहेड्स को स्टरलाइज़ करें
एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल को ऊपर करने से पहले ब्लैकहेड्स को अच्छे से क्लीन करे तकी बैक्टीरिया पोर्स में ना जा खातिर। आखिरकार, हमारा मुख्य लक्ष्य बैक्टीरिया को ही पोर्स से निकलना है। जिस एरिया में आपको टूल का प्रयोग करना है, वहा टूल के यूज से पहले थोड़ी सी अल्कोहल से रब करके उस एरिया को अच्छे से साफ कर ले। इसके अलावा एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल को भी अच्छी तरह से धो कर साफ कर ले तकी बैक्टीरिया से बच्चे खातिर। एक कॉटन में थोड़ी सी अल्कोहल लेके टूल को अच्छे से रगड़ कर ले।
4. सही एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल चुनें
ब्लैकहेड्स को हटाने के लिए कॉमेडोन एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल का इस्तेमाल किया जाता है, वही व्हाइटहेड्स को एक्सट्रैक्टर से निकलने से पहले एक तेज लैंसेट टूल की मदद से पियर्स करने की जरूरत होती है। ब्लैकहेड्स के लिए इस्तेमाल किया जाने वाला सबसे आम एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल 2-एंड वाला होता है, जिसके दोनो अलग अलग साइज के होते हैं। त्वचा से ब्लैकहेड्स निकलने की प्रक्रिया शुरू करने से पहले आप अपने ब्लैकहेड के आकार के अनुसार टूल के अंत का आकार चुनें। और, टूल का इस्तेमाल बहुत ही सावधानी से करें।
5. एक्स्ट्रेक्टर ब्लैकहेड्स को हटाता है
एक्सट्रैक्टर को ब्लैकहेड्स के एरिया में फोकस करके ब्लैकहेड्स को निकले और थोड़ा प्रेशर के साथ एक्सट्रैक्टर से धीरे-धीरे पास के एरिया के ब्लैकहेड्स को निकले। इस तरह ब्लैकहेड्स पूरी तरह से फॉलिकल से निकल जाएंगे और पोर्स से ऑयल निकल जाएगा।
6. गिरा हुआ खून का इलाज करें:
कुछ केस माई, एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल के अपयोग करने के खराब स्किन से ब्लड निकलने लगता है। फाइन या सिल्की कपड़ों की हेल्प से स्किन पर लगाये, तकी ब्लड एब्जॉर्ब हो खातिर। अगर इसे अच्छी तरह से किया जाए तो कुछ ही टाइम में ब्लड फ्लो बैंड हो जाएगा।
7. अंतिम चरण
संक्रमण को रोकने के लिए अतिरिक्त सत्र्क रहना जरूरी है। ब्लैकहेड्स फ्री स्किन को क्लीन करने के लिए अल्कोहल पैड्स से स्किन को रब करें। एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल को भी अच्छी तरह से धोना चाहिए। हमेशा याद रखें, अछे हाइजीन और सफाई के लिए अलर्ट रहने से ब्लैकहेड्स के इलाज में अच्छे और बेहतर परिणाम मिलते हैं।3. ब्लैकहेड्स को स्टरलाइज़ करेंएक्सट्रैक्टर टूल को ऊपर करने से पहले ब्लैकहेड्स को अच्छे से क्लीन करे तकी बैक्टीरिया पोर्स में ना जा खातिर। आखिरकार, हमारा मुख्य लक्ष्य बैक्टीरिया को ही पोर्स से निकलना है। जिस एरिया में आपको टूल का प्रयोग करना है, वहा टूल के यूज से पहले थोड़ी सी अल्कोहल से रब करके उस एरिया को अच्छे से साफ कर ले। इसके अलावा एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल को भी अच्छी तरह से धो कर साफ कर ले तकी बैक्टीरिया से बच्चे खातिर। एक कॉटन में थोड़ी सी अल्कोहल लेके टूल को अच्छे से रगड़ कर ले।4. सही एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल चुनेंब्लैकहेड्स को हटाने के लिए कॉमेडोन एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल का इस्तेमाल किया जाता है, वही व्हाइटहेड्स को एक्सट्रैक्टर से निकलने से पहले एक तेज लैंसेट टूल की मदद से पियर्स करने की जरूरत होती है। ब्लैकहेड्स के लिए इस्तेमाल किया जाने वाला सबसे आम एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल 2-एंड वाला होता है, जिसके दोनो अलग अलग साइज के होते हैं। त्वचा से ब्लैकहेड्स निकलने की प्रक्रिया शुरू करने से पहले आप अपने ब्लैकहेड के आकार के अनुसार टूल के अंत का आकार चुनें। और, टूल का इस्तेमाल बहुत ही सावधानी से करें।5. एक्स्ट्रेक्टर ब्लैकहेड्स को हटाता हैएक्सट्रैक्टर को ब्लैकहेड्स के एरिया में फोकस करके ब्लैकहेड्स को निकले और थोड़ा प्रेशर के साथ एक्सट्रैक्टर से धीरे-धीरे पास के एरिया के ब्लैकहेड्स को निकले। इस तरह ब्लैकहेड्स पूरी तरह से फॉलिकल से निकल जाएंगे और पोर्स से ऑयल निकल जाएगा।6. गिरा हुआ खून का इलाज करें:कुछ केस माई, एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल के अपयोग करने के खराब स्किन से ब्लड निकलने लगता है। फाइन या सिल्की कपड़ों की हेल्प से स्किन पर लगाये, तकी ब्लड एब्जॉर्ब हो खातिर। अगर इसे अच्छी तरह से किया जाए तो कुछ ही टाइम में ब्लड फ्लो बैंड हो जाएगा।7. अंतिम चरणसंक्रमण को रोकने के लिए अतिरिक्त सत्र्क रहना जरूरी है। ब्लैकहेड्स फ्री स्किन को क्लीन करने के लिए अल्कोहल पैड्स से स्किन को रब करें। एक्सट्रैक्टर टूल को भी अच्छी तरह से धोना चाहिए। हमेशा याद रखें, अछे हाइजीन और सफाई के लिए अलर्ट रहने से ब्लैकहेड्स के इलाज में अच्छे और बेहतर परिणाम मिलते हैं।
Post updated on: Aug 12, 2021 2:11:58 AM
20 मई, 2021 - अमेरिकी बच्चों की संख्या जो पुरुष या महिला के अलावा किसी अन्य लिंग के रूप में पहचान करती है, बढ़ती जा रही है, जर्नल पीडियाट्रिक्स रिपोर्ट में एक नया अध्ययन।2017 में, एक सीडीसी सर्वेक्षण ने हाई स्कूल के छात्रों से पूछा कि क्या वे खुद को ट्रांसजेंडर मानते हैं और पाया कि 1.8% ने हां कहा। लेकिन यूनिवर्सिटी ऑफ पिट्सबर्ग मेडिकल सेंटर के एक डॉक्टर ने सोचा कि क्या सीडीसी सर्वेक्षण को जिस तरह से संरचित किया गया था, वह उन सभी बच्चों को नहीं पकड़ता जो "लिंग विविध" थे।
केसी किड, एमडी, ने इसके बजाय एक विविध पिट्सबर्ग पब्लिक हाई स्कूल की ओर रुख किया और 3,000 से अधिक छात्रों से दो प्रश्न पूछे:
1."आपका लिंग क्या है (या, जन्म के समय आपका लिंग, आपके जन्म प्रमाण पत्र पर)?"
2."निम्नलिखित में से कौन आपका सबसे अच्छा वर्णन करता है (लागू होने वाले सभी का चयन करें)?"
उपलब्ध विकल्प थे "लड़की," "लड़का," "ट्रांस गर्ल," "ट्रांस बॉय," जेंडरक्यूअर," "नॉनबाइनरी," और "दूसरी पहचान।"अध्ययन में कहा गया है कि 9.2% बच्चों ने जवाब दिया कि वे किसी न किसी तरह से लिंग विविध थे।
अध्ययन के परिणाम गायक डेमी लोवाटो के रूप में गैर-बाइनरी के रूप में सामने आए और सर्वनाम "वे" और "उन्हें" का उपयोग करते हैं।लोवाटो ने ट्विटर पर कहा, "यह बहुत सारे उपचार और आत्म-चिंतनशील कार्य के बाद आया है।" "मैं अभी भी सीख रहा हूं और अपने आप में आ रहा हूं और मैं एक विशेषज्ञ या प्रवक्ता होने का दावा नहीं करता।"
पिट्सबर्ग विश्वविद्यालय में अंग्रेजी और लिंग, कामुकता और महिलाओं के अध्ययन के एसोसिएट प्रोफेसर, जूल्स गिल-पीटरसन, पीएचडी, किसी भी समाज में लिंग की द्विआधारी परिभाषा पर लोगों को ढूंढना मुश्किल नहीं है, सीएनएन को बताया।
गिल-पीटरसन ने कहा, "इस बात की परवाह किए बिना कि एक निश्चित समय में किसी विशेष समाज में किस तरह की सेक्स और लिंग व्यवस्था मौजूद है, वहां हमेशा ऐसे लोग होते हैं जो उन मानदंडों से भटक जाते हैं।" उनमें से कई संस्कृतियों में, "यह सांस्कृतिक रूप से स्वीकृत है और कुछ लोगों के लिए अलग-अलग जीवन जीने के लिए मनाया जाता है, जिसे हम जन्म के समय दिए गए लिंग को कह सकते हैं।"
Post updated on: Aug 12, 2021 1:20:04 AM
It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves-says William Shakespear.
The above is a part of a quote from Shakespeare's play JULIUS CAESAR. It reads as "The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars / But in ourselves, that we are underlings." (Julius Caesar,) It flags a message that we should not be guided by our astrological signs to do what we want to do. What we achieve in life is the outcome of our own actions not the fate or stars. Those who succeed in life are doers not star watchers. They don't look up to their astrological charts to decide what to do or what not to do.
In a nutshell it means we must have the strength of will, to overcome the roadblocks that obstruct the way to our goals. Our actions are our own choices and they are not the result of Stars which are beyond our control.
Pause for a moment to think about the faults in yourselves, and then choose your actions that may shape your destinies. This suggests you oversee your own destiny. Make your own choices as S.Naqi Haider Rizvi did . He turned his disabilities into abilities. This has been narrated in the following here below He has proved that what matters the most in our life to succeed is our thought process and attitude.. Our destiny is governed not by stars but our own actions.
When you want to do something you realize there are many obstacles on the way. Accept the existence of the obstacles preventing you from doing what you want to do and then go beyond them. This applies to everyone who aspires to achieve true success. Success has no destination. It is continuous and constant. Success means overcoming the difficult situations that you encounter on the way.
Obstacles are many. Obstacles can be overcome, once you understand the odds, everything outside of them becomes a possibility. S.Naqi Haider Rizvi is shining example. Read below what Naqi says - unedited version of what he says is reproduced here below
Losing Sight Is Not The Same As Losing Vision.
Naqi says; I have lost sight but not the vision
While addressing audience at TED Talk Naqi put his thoughts as follows
About your plans for tomorrow you may include a splendid breakfast laundry or for some of you choosing the right combination of clothes for a formal event; all of these are activities that most of us do without much effort. Now close your eyes and imagine doing those same activities but now with the blindfold. How will you differentiate the salt from sugar; how will you know which button to press on the washing machine, how will you know which tie best goes with your suit to make you look as handsome as me. Those same activities, same tasks, same goals now more difficult. Now imagine doing this with a blindfold not for a day but for the rest of your life yes ladies and gentlemen this is what I had to grapple with at the tender age of 7 when I lost my sight due to congenital glaucoma. Even when I was born I couldn't see very much and the gradual deterioration of my sight was like a slow poison that ate away the soul and happiness with me and my family. My parents tried everything in their power to save my eyes but it appeared the blindness had been destined for me and there was nothing that we could do except to come to terms with that bitter reality. It appeared before the rest of my life my world would be very bleak colorless and dark. Normal activities like reading writing drawing walking or even playing with children seemed like insurmountable mountains with no ropes that I could hold to reach the summit. It meant every time I would try to climb I would often fall .On the day I was born to an Indian mother and Pakistani father my parents realized that there was something very peculiar about me, not that I was a cocktail of immiscible countries or overly cute as a child but what noticeable was that my eyes were unusually protruding. They tried to seek answers but to no avail .Unfortunately the doctors won't have much help either. Mom and Dad however embraced me and took me home as a child; They didn't know how much I could or could not see. All they knew that as a toddler when I played with toys that fell far from me I found it difficult to find them and that my eyes watered uncontrollably when exposed to light. My mother who's a very ambitious woman and overly loving decided to put me in a regular school with sighted girls and boys so that I too could live a life as close to as near normality as possible. I will not delve into the specific challenges that I face being the only blind student in that school or there would be no end to this talk in sight
What I would however say is that the formative years of my life were full of challenges obstacles trials and tribulations .The only advantage to being different at school was that everyone knew my name and I was famous not for the most pleasant reason. Of course normal dreams that parents see for their children going to school playing sports going to university seemed incredibly difficult for me not only because they seemed too unrealistic or far-fetched but because our resources were scarce and we could not guarantee that schooling me in a regular setting would actually bear the desired results. My parents with unwavering faith in God believed that nothing was impossible .This propelled them forward. They knew that I had not been sent to this world as a mere glaucoma patient but rather as someone with a much bigger purpose in life. They worked with me day and night and raised me up just like a normal child. In fact I was even scolded for being overly naughty at school as my mother was a teacher in the same school and often heard my complaints in the teacher staff room .My mother who's an MBA graduate from a very prestigious university decided to let go of her career to help me cope at school. She worked with me day and night and helped me reach where I am today .On the other hand my larger-than-life father made me try the wonders of this world like karate skating cycling public speaking and even driving. not on a road of course .My sister was one of my biggest support and delight .She never fails to brighten up my days, She can relate to living in a pitch-black world as she also suffers from the same disease .She does however have some sight remaining and often describes the surroundings of new places that we visit together .Even as a child she never failed to brighten up my days in the hospital when she brought me my favorite toys ,chocolates and flowers during a debilitating surgery last year in which my eyes were removed and replaced with prosthetic ones to alleviate me of my excruciating eye pain .She came by my hospital bed and held my hand and at that time she conveyed something that no words could express and no one else could understand ladies and gentlemen. I'm no superhuman but just an ordinary person like all of you sitting here. All of us face problems in our lives of varying nature and magnitude. All of us also have dreams and ambitions that we yearn to accomplish but obstacles that prevent us from doing so sometimes our goals can seem too unrealistic or far-fetched. Resources are always scarce and none of us can guarantee that the effort we put in to accomplish those tasks will yield the desired results. I believe that too but does that mean we give up .Remember that when you try you will fall and when you fall fall forward because when you get up you're still ahead of where you were before you fell and that too is progress. Keep in mind that you cannot be victorious unless you come to the battlefield with the mindset of a warrior as Helen Keller beautifully articulates , keep your face to the Sun and the shadows will fall behind you ? I came to London two weeks ago ,coming to a new place adjusting to a new lifestyle learning rules studying engineering seems like an enormous challenge for me but I came here with the mindset of a warrior and now I not only go to most places on my own but also live a normal life I study engineering with my sighted friends, Do my house chores on my own and also enjoy life doing undergraduate degree. Many people thought I was being overly ambitious when I decided to opt for Industrial Engineering and I wouldn't lie it was incredibly difficult with those complicated diagrams equations computer programs and laboratory experiments but I knew I had to prove myself. I worked tirelessly and pleasantly surprised those same people on the day of my graduation when despite being the only one in my class with a physical impairment I graduated with the highest grade on my batch and that day proved to me that disability is not the same as inability. I did not attribute the success to myself alone as if it were not for the help of God, the love affection and support of my family, the guidance of my teachers and the moral support of my friends I wouldn't have been able to come this far. I proudly tell the world that even though I have lost my sight I haven't lost my vision .For me my attitude has always been the first step towards achievement. For some people my world may appear very bleak colorless and dark but to me my world is very bright and illuminated because when some sighted people see things they see them the way they are but when I see things I see them the way I choose to view them .Ladies and gentlemen all of us have goals and ambitions that we want to accomplish and many obstacles that prevent us from achieving those, do not wait, go out there and fight to overcome those obstacles. Keep in mind that obstacles will always be there what needs change is the way we tackle them. Try to overcome those obstacles. If you can't overcome all of them just like the ones I encounter on the pavements here, then go around them do not let any person; any circumstance define your success or failure. Remember that you are the captain of your ship and the master of your destiny. Do not let frustrations hold you back. Use them to propel you forward .Keep in mind that kites fly against the wind and not with it. Do keep in mind that nothing is impossible because even the word impossible says I am possible .Keep in mind that your perseverance and attitude can make the difference. Start with a small step and soon you'll be leaping towards your goals with obstacles propelling you forward instead of holding you back .Remember the obstacles are challenges and failures are stepping stones to success. Trials and tribulations will always be there but what will help you succeed is your belief that nothing is impossible .And now at the count of three I want all of you to say together nothing is impossible okay one two three nothing is impossible, Let us try again .this time let's say to the floor nothing is impossible ok, nothing is impossible and now the last time the loudest and with maximum conviction nothing is impossible ladies and gentlemen It was for me an idea worth spreading."
Note ::This is discussed in detail in my book Failure is a knock on the door of success
S.S.A.Zaidi
Retd Banker ;Author &;Motivational speaker
Training and Development Consultant
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Post updated on: Aug 11, 2021 11:18:41 PM
ART OF PERSONAL EXCELLENCE
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts. Improvement is the basis of evolution. When someone is looking for self-improvement it means to believe that nothing under the Sun is perfect. There is always room for improvement. We all wish to change our lives for betterment. We always do find the chance to improve and change it. And again once we get a chance we are puzzled how to start and how to make a change. The most successful people are always looking for ways to improve. They are not satisfied with accepting their shortcomings or resting on their laurels. Top achievers put time and energy into being their best self.
I would say from my personal experience, no matter who you are, how old you are, or your circumstances right now. Self-development allows you to be happier day by day and live life in the way you want to.
SELF DEVELOPMENT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE---
Growth in yourself eventually leads you to new opportunities. All you need to focus on your lifestyle. Start implementing the things which you learn in your life. Focus on self-improvement----by reading good articles, blogs, books on personal development.
Do not use your energy to worry, use your energy to believe. Self-confidence leads to Self - esteem. All you need to believe in yourself and follow your dreams. Always keep motivating yourself which will in turn push you to reach your goals.
Self-improvement helps you become a better version of yourself. Whether to improve in your job, your business, your relationships. You have to constantly look at what you can improve; you have to grow into the person who is ready to change. Personal development is vital to your success.
THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO IMPROVE YOURSELF------
Always have a reliable company around you to judge and guide you towards your improvement path.
Reading is the best choice when it comes to growth and improvement.
Identify your blind spots.
Overcome your fears.
Acknowledge your flaws.
Always challenge yourself and have healthy competition.
Learn from people who inspire you.
Learn to deal with difficult people whom you can't avoid.
Always try to avoid negative people.
Cultivate a new habit and quit a bad habit.
Let go of the past and focus on the future.
Get a mentor or coach if you find it difficult to lead your journey of improvement.
Take a break.
Always meditate and exercise.
Life never seems to be the way we want it,
but we live it the best way we can.
There is no perfect life,
but we can always fill it with perfect moments.
BEYOND THE POINT, Let us be a Player in life who runs for the goal.....and not a Referee who looks for the faults. Always recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow. Shake your routine up and do something different. Being too comfortable doesn't help us grow, it makes us stagnate.
Post updated on: Aug 11, 2021 11:06:48 AM
Only tears don't measure the pain
Sometimes fake smile have its own gain.
The weakness no one wants to show
As everyone want to have a strong grow .
You smile and laugh like you are perfectly fine
But deep down you're really crying.
You don't wanna to show your pain
Because you get those questions ,"what's wrong ?" Or "are you okay." again and again.
And after that it's too difficult to explain
So that fake sweet smile you usually claim.
But do you know ?
In summer who is the snow,
That is being fake is like icing on the cake .
According to modern study , it have experimented that even a fake smile can reduce stress , lower heart rate and can have a positive effect on the mood.
Fake smile can triggered the movement of muscles of your face and can "trick" your brain into a deep thinking that you're happy.
Neurotransmitters called endorphins are announced to let go when you smile or even you faking a smile or laugh as your brain doesn't able to differentiate between a fake smile and a real smile . 'Brain' only care for the muscle that's expand while smiling.
In a single term it is known as "Facial feedback hypothesis".
When we feel stressed at that time 'Cortisol' is more active which donate unpleasant , negative feeling which is reduced by releasing Endorphins.
Endorphins also act as a natural pain killer , reduce the chronic pain .
So we can actually get benefits from fake smile that hide a lot of pain .
Life is so difficult at times
But gives reason to be fine
So just punch it on a face
And keep going
Listen ,stop a while
You never know who is falling in love with your smile.
Post updated on: Aug 11, 2021 7:10:53 AM
स्मूद और शाइनी हेयर हर किसी की ख़्वाब होती है। कफी बार कर्ली या सेमी कर्ली बालों को मैनेज कर पाना बहुत मुश्किल हो जाता है, ऐसे बालो के साथ आप कोई हेयर स्टाइल भी नहीं कर पाते।अगर आप सोच रहे हैं की घर बैठे परफेक्ट हेयर स्ट्रेटनिंग कर पाना बहुत ही मुश्किल है तो आप गलत सोच रहे हैं। हम आपको बताएंगे कुछ ऐसे प्राकृतिक तारिके जो बिना पार्लर जाएंगे आपके बालो को देगा स्ट्रेट लुक। जाने कुछ महत्वपूर्ण हेयर स्ट्रेटनिंग टिप्स:अब भूल जाए उन केमिकल्स को अपने बालो में लगाना, जिनसे बालों को नुकसान पहुंचाना पड़ता है जाते हैं और अपने प्राकृतिक तरीके। याहा आप जानेंगे कुछ ऐसे हेयर स्ट्रेटनिंग टिप्स जो आपके बालो को देगा नेचुरल स्ट्रेट लुक वो भी बिना डैमेज किया।
1. (दूध)
1? कप मिल्क मी ? कप पानी में करे इसे किसी स्प्रे बोतल में भर दे अपने बालो में अच्छी तरह से कंघी कर ले अब है मिश्रण को बालो की लंबाई और जड़ पे अच्छे से स्प्रे करे इसे 30 मिनट के लिए लगा कर रखे, उसके लिए धीरे से खराब नॉर्मल वाटर से हेयर वॉश कर ले इस्को वीक मी 2-3 बार करे, ये नैचुरली आपके हेयर को स्ट्रेट कर देगा।
2. (अजवाइन के पत्ते)अजवाइन के वार
अजवाइन के पत्तों को बारिक कट कर ले और मिक्सर की मदद से उसका जूस निकल ले इस जूस को अच्छी तरह से फिल्टर करके एक बोतल में भर ले इसे पूरी चूहा सूखी जगह पर स्टोर करके रखे अगले दिन अपने हाथों में है जूस को बालो की लेंथ और रूट्स पे करें करे
अब किसी चौड़े दांतों वाली कंघी से बालो को अच्छी तरह से कंघी करले
1 घंटा तक इसे बालो में लगा कर रखे और फिर सामान्य पानी से अच्छी तरह धो करले पहली ही बार में आप अपने बालो में एक प्राकृतिक शाइन या स्ट्रेटनिंग देखेंगे।
3. (अंडा)
2 अंडे का सफेद भाग एक कटोरी में निकल ले इसमे 2 बड़े चम्मच दही मिलाए अगर आपको अंडे की गंध परशन करता है तो इसमे आप थोड़ा सा हीना पाउडर भी मिला सकते हैं हीना पाउडर अंडे की गंध को खतम करता है और खोपड़ी को ठंडा रखता है इस्स पेस्ट को ब्रश की मदद से अपने शुद्ध बालो में अच्छे से लगाए और 1 घंटे के लिए छोड़ दे अब नॉर्मल वॉटर से अच्छी तरह हेयर वॉश कर ले, आप चाहे तो शैम्पू भी इस्तेमाल कर सकते हैं।
4. (नारियल का दूध)
गिला नारीयल ले और इसे बारिक टुकड़ो में कट कर ले मिक्सर में अच्छी तरह ब्लेंड करके इस्का दूध निकल ले इसमे १ लेमन का जूस मिलाये
अच्छी तरह मिक्स करके इसे एक दिन के लिए रेफ्रिजरेटर में रख दे
अगले दिन आप देखेंगे के इसे ऊपर एक क्रीमी लेयर आ गई है, इस लेयर को अपने स्कैल्प पे और रूट पे अच्छी तरह लगाये अब अपने बालो को 1 घंटे के लिए हॉट टॉवल से कवर कर ले बैड मी वाटर से हेयर को वॉश कर ले और ब्रॉड टूथ कॉम्ब से कॉम्बिंग कर ले, चाहे तो ब्लोड्री भी कर सकते हैं इस उपाय को वीक मी 2-3 बार यूज करे। सभी चीजो को में करें आप स्वाभाविक रूप से हेयर पा सकते हैं।
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उम्र बढ़ने के साथ ज्ञान, दृष्टिकोण और हाँ, परिवर्तन आते हैं जो आपकी ऊर्जा को खत्म कर सकते हैं। यहां तक कि अगर आप पहले की तरह उतनी तेजी से नहीं नाच रहे हैं, तो ऐसे तरीके हैं जिनसे आप अपने कदम में उछाल को बनाए रख सकते हैं।
ध्यान केंद्रित करना:
आहार
व्यायाम
नींद
अपना मेनू प्रबंधित करें
यदि आप कुछ समय से वही चीजें खा रहे हैं, तो अपनी प्लेट में क्या है, इस पर नए सिरे से नज़र डालें। सही प्रकार का भोजन आपकी ऊर्जा को बढ़ा सकता है और आपको बेहतर महसूस करा सकता है।जैसे-जैसे आपकी उम्र बढ़ती है, आपके शरीर की भोजन को ऊर्जा में बदलने की क्षमता धीमी हो जाती है। नतीजतन, कई लोगों का वजन बढ़ गया। फिर भी, आप खुद को फिट और ऊर्जावान रहने में मदद कर सकते हैं।चीनी का स्तर एक बड़ी भूमिका निभाता है। कुछ विशेषज्ञों का कहना है कि "कम ग्लाइसेमिक" खाद्य पदार्थ, जैसे बीन्स, गैर-स्टार्च वाली सब्जियां, नट्स और साबुत अनाज उत्पाद, आपके रक्त शर्करा को संतुलित रखने में मदद कर सकते हैं।"हाई-ग्लाइसेमिक" खाद्य पदार्थ, जैसे सफेद चावल, सफेद ब्रेड, और चीनी-मीठे पेय, आपके रक्त शर्करा में तेजी से वृद्धि कर सकते हैं। आप एक संक्षिप्त ऊर्जा झटका महसूस कर सकते हैं, लेकिन जब डुबकी आती है, तो आप पहले की तुलना में अधिक सूखा महसूस कर सकते हैं।
मात्रा बहुत मायने रखती है, बहुत कम कैलोरी आपके शरीर को ऊर्जा के लिए भूखा छोड़ सकती है। बहुत अधिक मात्रा में आपका वजन बढ़ सकता है, जिससे आप सुस्त महसूस कर सकते हैं।
आपको हर दिन कितना खाना चाहिए यह कई बातों पर निर्भर करता है, खासकर आप कितने सक्रिय हैं। आपको कितनी कैलोरी की आवश्यकता है, इसके बारे में अपने डॉक्टर या आहार विशेषज्ञ से बात करें।
चलते रहोआप देख सकते हैं कि जब आप छोटे थे तब आप उससे कम काम कर रहे थे। शायद 5K के लिए प्रशिक्षण ने रात के खाने के बाद टहलने का रास्ता दे दिया है।आप जितने सक्रिय रहेंगे, उतना ही ऊर्जावान महसूस करेंगे। व्यायाम और शारीरिक गतिविधि भी आपके मूड को ठीक करने के बेहतरीन तरीके हैं। यदि आपके पास ऐसे मुद्दे हैं जो आपको उन चीजों को करने से रोकते हैं जिन्हें आप एक बार आनंद लेते थे, तो रचनात्मक होने के लिए स्वतंत्र महसूस करें। यदि आपके घुटनों में गठिया आपको दौड़ने या बास्केटबॉल खेलने से रोकता है, तो तैराकी या साइकिल चलाना आपके काम आ सकता है।जैसे-जैसे आप बड़े होते जाते हैं आपको हिलना बंद नहीं करना चाहिए। बस एक अलग तरीके से आगे बढ़ें। स्थानीय वरिष्ठ केंद्रों में फिटनेस कार्यक्रमों की तलाश करें या एक साथी खोजें ताकि आप एक दूसरे को प्रेरित कर सकें। यदि आपको सक्रिय होने के लिए समय निकालने में परेशानी होती है, तो शायद सुबह सबसे पहले कसरत करें, इससे पहले कि आप कुछ और करें, चाल चल सकती है। बस सुनिश्चित करें कि आप पहले कुछ नाश्ता खा लें।नई दिनचर्या शुरू करने से पहले अपने डॉक्टर से बात करें।
कुछ आराम मिलनाहम में से कुछ के लिए, यह जीवन के छोटे-छोटे चुटकुलों में से एक है: जब आप सेवानिवृत्त होते हैं और काम के लिए उठना नहीं पड़ता है, तो आप अब और नहीं सो सकते हैं।लेकिन पर्याप्त आंखें बंद करना महत्वपूर्ण है। ज्यादातर लोगों को रात में लगभग 7 घंटे की जरूरत होती है। अगर आपको इतना नहीं मिल रहा है, तो किसी भी कारण से, अपनी रात की दिनचर्या को समायोजित करने के तरीकों की तलाश करें।कोशिश करें कि सोने से ठीक पहले शराब न पिएं। हालांकि यह आपको थोड़ी देर के लिए नीरस बना सकता है, यह वास्तव में पूरी रात की नींद लेना कठिन बना देता है।
आपको भी चाहिए:1.मध्याह्न तक अपनी सारी कैफीन समाप्त कर लें।
2.सोने से पहले अपने कंप्यूटर, स्मार्टफोन और टीवी को अच्छी तरह बंद कर दें।3.अपने बेडरूम को जितना हो सके ठंडा, अंधेरा और शांत रखें।
4.जितनी बार हो सके एक ही समय पर सोएं और जागें
यदि आप अभी भी पर्याप्त नींद नहीं ले पा रहे हैं, तो अपने डॉक्टर से बात करें।इन अन्य युक्तियों को भी आजमाएं
इन अन्य युक्तियों को भी आजमाएं
उम्र बढ़ने के साथ ऊर्जा और मनोदशा में सुधार के कुछ और तरीकों के लिए, आप यह कर सकते हैं:शराब पर सामान्य रूप से कटौती करें। जैसे-जैसे आपकी उम्र बढ़ती है, इसका प्रभाव आपके साथ अधिक समय तक बना रहता है।
अधिक पानी पीना । यदि आप थोड़ा भी निर्जलित हैं, तो यह आपकी ऊर्जा को नष्ट कर सकता है और आपके मूड को प्रभावित कर सकता है।
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S. S. A. Zaidi
Training and Development Consultant
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Life is a struggle. One such struggle is to find solutions to the problems we encounter day in and day out. And to overcome this we all need to be Thinkers?.
It is wisely said "most problems are really the absence of ideas. And the moment a problem has been clearly defined and stated, 90% of its solution has been found?.
To get ideas, keep your mind open. Mind is like a parachute. It is useless if it is not open." Newton had his eyes open when the apple fell in front of him. He saw the apple falling, he thought and came up with Law of Gravitation. A man could not have landed on the moon without the knowledge of this Law'.
Knowledge and experience no doubt widen one's mental horizon but in the end it is the "THINKING Process" that helps find a solution. A process is a series of meaningful repeatable steps that produces an outcome. Every process requires Inputs to produce some output. The process of thinking produces IDEAS / SOLUTIONS. This thinking process involves.
- Letting one's sub conscious mind work on it round the clock.
- Meeting, visiting and talking to a lot of people.
- Developing one's common sense and using it.
- Not making "Best" the enemy of "Better" i.e implementing what one thinks is better than before.
- Not being afraid of mistakes - Remember a mistake is the best teacher. A wrong decision can be corrected.
Start your thinking process and see the ideas popping up like Pop- Corn.
Dream is the ultimate of process of thinking. It is the result of complete involvement. What we think during the day, we dream about in the night. Success comes only from complete involvement, that becomes a part of one's sub-conscious and is reflected in one's dreams.
Remember in life there are two things worth living for,
- Do what is worthy of being written.
- Write what is worthy of being read.
Thinking is done in "Mind" . It is the "Mind" which thinks, perceives, feels, wills, conceives, believes and achieves.
"Mind" is the best asset we have. This asset needs to be taken care of and protected as one would do, for example, for one's car. When one buys a car, one gets a "CAR OPERATING Manual" . When one gets a job, one perhaps gets a job Operation Manual. Manuals describe the logical steps / precautions that need to be taken to operate the car and to do one's job.
Can't we then have a "MIND Manual" to do our job better at home and in office?
Relax and think how much of your mind did you use yesterday? You might have done 100 things, but think how many of these could have been done by your assistants. May be, your assistants may have taken longer time, may have made more mistakes but if you keep on delegating authority and responsibility to them, don't you think your assistants will improve themselves? Certainly they will.
This will give you enough time to use your MIND fully and it will take you towards your goals.
Your mind can store as much information as you want to. It will never be full. Mind is like a tape recorder. It will keep on recording, if you keep it switched on. It will also play back whenever you want to have any information.
Mind is like a muscle. More you train it, stronger it gets. The older you get, better it becomes provided you KEEP ON USING IT.
Mind is like a piece of land. On the land you can grow whatever you put into it. You cannot get good ideas unless you put in seeds of good ideas.
Mind is actually better than the piece of land, because germination can even take place not only within six days, or six months, but even after 10,20 or 30 years. Relax and think. To one who tries and concentrates, ideas come seemingly from nowhere.
Mind comes to us Free as standard equipment at birth What we get free; we attach little value to it. If you use your mind and value it, you will experience its miracle.
It is the miracle of mind when suddenly an idea starts flashing on the screen of your mind. It is now up to you to transfer this flash from your mind to a piece of paper.
God has given this piece of land MIND to all of us. We add to it or delete from it in regard to its fertility.
These ingredients would add fertility to your Mind helping it to produce rich crops of good ideas. In the process you become rich and your Organization becomes richer.
REMEMBER
Thinking can be done by your assistants too. Encourage them to get involved in thinking.
There is a story of a crow that could raise the level of water in the pitcher by dropping pebbles into it. The crow solved the problem by thinking and using its mind. Incidentally this story has been modified. The crow who had dropped the pebbles saw that the water that came up was muddy. It flew away without drinking the water. Another crow who was sitting nearby and observing all that was happening waited with patience for a few minutes so that the mud could settle down and when it did, it quenched its thirst with the clean water.
The moral is when you are thinking, do not limit your scope and span of thinking.
If you are asked to join the following nine dots with four straight lines without lifting your pen, you cannot do it until you widen your span of thinking and extend to the area that lies outside the nine dots. This is known as ?THINKING OUTSIDE THE Box. (A very common exercise used in Training Programs).
Can you join these dots with four straight lines without lifting your pen?
THINK
Yes ? you can but only if you think beyond the area of dots.
This reinforces the view that greater success comes only to those who do not confine their thinking to a definite / set mould. And this is what we as Managers need to work on. We should widen the scope and span of our thinking.
We should strive to be ?DIFFERENTIATORS?.
To be Differentiators we need to:
- Give more autonomy and space to employees.
- Raise the performance level in all key activities.
- Encourage activities like team working / reciprocity.
- Give demanding expectations that would require the employees to think to go that extra Mile?.
Managers, therefore need to think and encourage employees to think. This would produce plethora of ideas. Such ideas would help organization scale newer and newer heights of achievements.
This is very well illustrated and testified by the experience of a Production Manager in a leather factory in India under whom more than 300 workers were working. Almost all these workers were illiterates, with not so bright IQ. But the Production Manager never had any difficulty in getting the required output from them. When this company got a very large export order it became necessary for the Production Manager to increase the productivity. But there was a big problem. There was no drying machine with the result that the leather after having been tanned and dyed was put under the sun for it to dry. This took longer time hampering the productivity. The cost of the drying machine was about $9,000 and it required to be imported from Germany after obtaining import license. And to get the licence was a long drawn procedure. The company had actually applied for the licence eight months back but had not yet received it.
The Production Manager did not want to lose this export order. And the only way to do it was to accelerate the drying process to increase the productivity.
The Production Manager went to his workers and told them about the export order and the need for rigging up a drying mechanism. He asked the workers: How shall we do it
The workers responded to the challenge and said that they would think about it. After some time they came up with a Drying Mechanism that cost the company only $1,000 and accelerated the drying process resulting in increased productivity.
This Production Manager, whenever he had a problem, would go to his workers and ask them How shall we do it. This would trigger the process of thinking and the workers would come up with ideas to solve the problem.
This Production Manager was a differentiator, a Motivator. We, managers therefore, should go to our employees with the Poser. How shall we do it. And experience the miraculous results.
As SWITZER said,
You do not help anyone by preaching a new idea; you help only by assisting a man to think.
Post updated on: Aug 10, 2021 4:11:28 AM
Do you need relaxation from work ?
Or
Do you want to maintain your health without any medicines .
Or
anxious about something ? And you need to calm down yourself ?
If 'yes'
then your destination is "YOGA".
Introduction:-
Yoga is derived from 'yuj' which is a sanskrit word means of 'to unite'. It is an ancient form of managing mental health , creating calmness , increasing body awareness , sharpens concentration and a typical therapy of all diseases.
About:-
Yoga reherse was began during the civilization of Indus-Saraswati and was first introduced in Rig Veda and also mentioned in the Upanishads which consists of mantras , rituals and songs mainly used by Vedic priests.
Rishikesh is considered to be the birth place of Yoga which is located at the foothills of Himalayas.
About Naukasana(boat pose)
how to pose :
Step 1- Lie down straight on your back with your legs together.
Step 2- Put your hands next to the thighs.
Step 3- Take a deep breath and exhale .
Step 4- Raise up your chest as well as the feet from the ground .Recline your arms where your fingers are pointing towards the feet .
Step 6- Put up your toes , fingers , eyes in a line
Step 7- Maintain inhalation, exhalation while doing the pose .
Step 8- Hold the position for few seconds and then on gradual exhaling come back to the ground slowly with relaxation .
*Do this 3-4 times daily but shouldn't overdo.
You will feel pressure on your belly area on contradiction of your abdominal muscles.
Benefits:
- strengthens the back , abdominal muscles , thigh , hips , shoulder and neck .
-helps in tonning the leg , arm muscles and developing ABS. ( Not only going to the gym helps you to develop your six pack abs but yoga also helps to develop it )
- helps to remove fat , improving digestion as well as circulation of blood .
- good functioning of kidney , prostate glands , thyroid , liver , pancreas, lungs .
*Important tips*
People suffering from:-
- low blood pressure
- headache
- migrane
- diseases of chronic
- back pain or spinal problem
- asthma
- heart diseases
Shouldn't practice this naukasana.
- Women during the stage of menstrual cycle and pregnancy shouldn't perform this naukasana.
Yoga is like a sun which brightens up the darker region of our body .
So Do Practice!!
Post updated on: Aug 10, 2021 2:11:28 AM
पेट दर्द बेचैनी या अन्य असहज संवेदनाएं हैं जो आप अपने पेट क्षेत्र में महसूस करते हैं। लगभग हर किसी को कभी न कभी पेट में दर्द होगा।पेट दर्द के अधिकांश कारण चिंता का कारण नहीं होते हैं, और आपका डॉक्टर समस्या का आसानी से निदान और उपचार कर सकता है। कभी-कभी, हालांकि, यह एक गंभीर बीमारी का संकेत हो सकता है जिसके लिए चिकित्सा ध्यान देने की आवश्यकता होती है।पुराना दर्द लंबे समय तक रहता है - हफ्तों से लेकर महीनों या उससे अधिक तक - और आ और जा सकता है।चाहे आपको हल्का दर्द हो या गंभीर ऐंठन, पेट दर्द के कई कारण हो सकते हैं। उदाहरण के लिए, आपको अपच, कब्ज, पेट का वायरस या, यदि आप एक महिला हैं, तो मासिक धर्म में ऐंठन हो सकती है।
Post updated on: Aug 10, 2021 1:58:39 AM
Washing liquid-3 ltrs
Milk low fat-2 ltrs
Vegetables and fruits
Rava - 1 kg
Whole wheat bread - 1 full
And the list goes on.....
A message notification rings shrilly on another phone put on charge in the bedroom.
Is it you? The husband calls out from the room.
Yes, I have added few more items in the list you sent, I replied.
A usual weekend morning begins with the list, just before our mischievous kids wake up for the day.
Every weekend, I have the habit of checking the kitchen supplies, right before I delve into the cooking session. What items has to be stocked up and to be brought right away? And this notes are not on any paper, but the SMS or what's up messages conveniently sent to the husband and vice-versa too.
Oh I forgot to add pulses in the list... Tanmay. I announced checking the contents of the container.
Is there anything new I heard, don't make me run to the store everytime you find your dabba empty.... Husband remarks with a frown!
How could you say that, you are the only one missing on something or the other on the list I share, and run to the supermarket again the next day to buy it.
That's why I tell you to accompany me Tara. He scowls back at me, types out a text and sends it to me, my phone beeped with the notification of message - - - 'pulses- moong dal 1kg, toor dal-1kg etc.
No dinner tables booked. No candle lights arranged. No romantic setup. No gaudy outfits. No extra ordinary ambience.
As our relationship graduates to a certain degree of maturity, even our dates are metamorphosesd to ones that are quick and useful and most of the times it turn out to be a grocery shopping expedition.
Since the onset of the pandemic, Tanmay has been the one who makes rapid outings to the supermarket to get our weekly essentials.
The other day also happened same... Tanmay as usual looked upon deals and value packs and hunted out all the items mentioned in the list.
Once he stepped into the house.... Arey suno...
Why did you bring 2 packs of Rava... I only mentioned one.
When will you understand? I have to look for best offers.....
Arey but I don't have extra place to store.
When you ladies have extra space to fit anything..... Jab dekho jagah nahi hai!!
Even the good nights have been turned out as reminders.....
Acha suno, today the item list was so lengthy, I deliberately did not mention for washroom supplies - please don't forget to bring the dettol and harpic... 2 bottles each. Was there any offer on that? Have you noticed today?
Do you really care for deals... Tara? How many bottles you use up in a single month?
Wife always has the last say in the discussion, doesn't she? So, I replied back saying... Proportionate to the number of times you use washroom in a month, goodnight and please don't forget to make a note of it in your list.
Thus our love notes are filled with grocery items, we share lot of messages in a week back and forth.
And I believe this is the true story of every couple.... Love does not fade by the time, but it takes a new form!! 😉
Post updated on: Aug 9, 2021 7:03:17 PM
Cannabis has
been used as part of Hindu spiritual pIn addition to
the medicinal and spiritual uses of the plant, Ancient Indians would also have
used the hemp plant for industrial purposes similar to those seen in other
regions at the time. For example, hemp fibres have been used in the production
of textiles including clothing for thousands of years. There is evidence that
ancient Indian technicians may have been the first to practise ?hempcrete?
technology ? a form of plaster that contains ?bhang? mixed with clay or lime
plaster. The natural insecticide and pesticide properties of hemp fibres are
thought to have helped preserve artwork in the Ellora cave for almost 1500
years! I would discuss these in the following pages.
Cannabis is also known as
Indian Hemp / Marijuana has
been cultivated and used around the globe for more than 5000 years its used for medicinal purpose and as a
recreational drug. , food, and hemp fibre. Hemp seed has been for oils and hemp leaves for use as vegetables and juice. Although primarily used today as
one of the most prevalent illicit leisure drugs, the use of Cannabis sativa L,
commonly referred to as marijuana, for medicinal purposes has been Marijuana
use has been shown to create numerous health
problems, and, consequently, the expanding use beyond medical purposes into
recreational use (abuse) resulted in control of the drug through international
treaties. There are two main strains of Cannabis namely CBD
and THCractises and traditional medicine for
perhaps thousands of years. However, the earliest mention of ?bhang? ? a
Sanskrit word for cannabis ? as a medicine has been traced back to the works of
Sushruta is believed to have been written between 500-600 AD. The Sushruta refers
to cannabis as ?anti-phlegmatic? (and recommended as a remedy for catarrh
accompanied by diarrhoea, as well as a cure for biliary fever. In Ayurveda, cannabis
has mainly been used to treat conditions of the digestive and respiratory
tracts. However, there is also evidence in later literary sources that cannabis
has been used to treat other ailments including epilepsy and asthma.
If you follow me, within a few months you will know more than many medical practitioners as they only know about synthetic medicine.
Post updated on: Aug 9, 2021 10:23:45 AM
TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF
HOW TO INTRODUCE YOURSELF IN INTERVIEW
INTERVIEW INTRODUCTION : A GOOD EXAMPLE
INTERVIEW TIPS TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF
HOW TO INTRODUCE YOURSELF IN INTERVIEW
I have seen many different ways in which a job seeker introduces himself. Actually, this question is a very usual choice of the interviewers for beginning the interview. The good part, they do not want to hear everything about your life in 2 to 3 minutes.
That gives you a chance to choose the words and phrases that best describe you.
Start with Greeting of the day
Place to which you belong
Current Education
Work Experience
Something you are proud of
Core Capabilities and
Hobbies
Family Details
You can have set of sentences which you can keep as templates and modify to suit a particular interview situation. One of the way is:
Let me take this opportunity to tell you __________________________.
I am a ___________________professional.
I have done ____________________________________________.
My Name is _______________________________.
I am from__________________
During my college/last company I worked with________________
I am capable of_______________________
An achievement I am proud of is __________________
My core strengths are ___________________________________
I am here for/I am applying for the position for_______________________.?
INTERVIEW INTRODUCTION : A GOOD EXAMPLE
An example of the introduction can be ?
Good Morning, let me take this opportunity to introduce me. I am Paul Silver. I am a budding hospitality professional. I have done my schooling from St. Xaviers with Science stream, scoring 75% marks. I am from Delhi and hail from a middle class family background. During my college I have been a regular, committed and disciplined student. My core strengths are being energetic and ability to work diligently for long hours. You should hire me because I am an achievement oriented person who has desire, commitment and passion to reach the organizational objectives.
INTERVIEW TIPS TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF
Post updated on: Aug 9, 2021 1:31:12 AM
Rejection hurts but it should not hold you back
Rejection does put one out of comfort zone. It does feel like a big blow. However, it does throw up a golden opportunity to the person who receives the rejection to reflect to improve. It could also spurone to move on and shift gears.
Rejections could be prompts to you to improve your skills on what you got rejected at. Rejection should not make you feel that you are incompetent or you are a failure, it only means you are not perhaps equipped with the skills required for that activity you were working at. You should therefore take it as a learning experiment. You should educate yourself. You should not get disheartened. You should not accept defeat and quit.
Rejection makes one resilient. It should be an integral part of one's learning and growth. Dealing with rejection can be difficult and painful. One may ignore it and move on while others may wallow in self-pity.
A genuine rejection is positive and should be taken as a signal to you to learn and improve. Ignore negative rejections and grow through what you go through. If you get rejected in a job interview, you don't declare yourself incompetent, do you? No, you don't. You rather continue pushing yourself until you succeed. Adopt same approach in all the setbacks and rejections you receive.
One person's rejection or opinion should not define you who you are. It should give you an opportunity to grow and become better. Face rejection with courage and convert it into success. Not all rejections are bad; some help to improve. Take rejections as your next step towards success. Learn from these rejections and if you do that you will be a better version of yourself. Take rejection as a fact that you could have done better. Use it as a tool to improve. Giving up is not an option. Correct approach for you will be to give it yet another try rather than giving up. Take it as something better coming. Take it as a stepping stone to success. Appreciation always follows Rejection.
I had a few rejections in my professional life. Some dampened me a bit but I did not get discouraged. I overcame it. First rejection was when I was not taken as a teacher despite me having done quite well in the interview. My being the past student of that collage and even good one was also ignored; Second rejection was for banking job in officer's cadre. Though my performance in the written tests and interview was very good, I was not taken. In both the cases I understand why I was not taken but I would prefer to desist from commenting on that.
Among many other rejections the last rejection was froma Publisher when after a wait of about two months they informed that they would not be able to publish my book Anti Money Laundering/Anti Terrorism Financing & Know Your Customers Banker's Handbook. Some other publishers didn't respond. I was getting a bit jittery, but not losing hope and things in course of time turned out positive.
Snow White Publishers Kalbadevi Mumbai after several phone calls and a few meetings finally agreed to publish. The book was instant success and went into second edition that also sold out in six months.
The book has been adjudged the best book on the subject. A few comments of appreciation in regard to that read like as follows
1. Marc Hochstein Executive Editor, American Banker commented? The financial services industry today offers great opportunity for innovation and disruption. But even the most visionary start-ups must manage risk and understand the regulations, including anti-money laundering and know-your-customer requirements. S.S.A. Zaidi has written a timely book for those who want to get a handle on the complex work of AML compliance, a major concern of financial institutions ranging from global banks to local money transmitters. He is a passionate advocate of transparency and integrity in business, and his writing will inspire those trying to build ethical, risk-averse corporate cultures in an era when short-term thinking is unfortunately prevalent.
Mrs V. R.Iyer Retd CEO Bank of India, messaged
I find Mr. Zaidi's book ?Anti-money Laundering/Anti-Terrorism Financing & Know Your Customer? to be very comprehensive and informative. The complex subject of Money Laundering has been dealt with in a very logical sequence and easy to understand language. The style of presentation makes easy reading. The book will be of great help not only to front line staff dealing with customers but also be a good source of material for trainers.
I have known Mr. Zaidi as a very competent trainer and the presentation style of the book reflects his professional competence. The fact that the book is going into second edition within a period of five months of its publication speaks volumes about the quality of the contents and manner of presentation of the book. I wish the second edition of the book and its author all success
The lesson you can draw from all this is not to get discouraged by such rejections.
What is all narrated above can be summarized in the words of ? Lailah Gifty Akita , Author of Think Great: Be Great as under
"Everyone at some point in life have faced rejection and failure, it is part of the process to self-realization."
Lesson is --Don't allow rejections to disturb and threaten your comfort Zone
Take Always -
1) Rejection should not lead to not to lead to Dejection
2) See rejection as a tool to get better and improve it's not the end.
3) You must remain motivated and inspired
Post updated on: Aug 8, 2021 10:58:49 PM
Being bodily and intellectually dynamic has been established to administer several health advantages. It may even serve you in existing a plentifuller life.
Routine physical exercise can aid you to strengthen your muscles and enhance your stamina. Exercise eases your cardiovascular arrangement functions more efficiently by conveying oxygen and nutrients to your membranes. You'll produce more further energy to supervise everyday pursuits as your heart and lung health upgrades.
Exercise is essential for the development and maintenance of strong muscles and bones. When combined with appropriate protein intake, activities like weightlifting can help you grow muscle. Exercise is a big part of boosting your mood and reduce sadness, anxiety, and stress. It causes alterations in the brain areas that control stress and anxiety.
Lack of physical activities ends you up with chronic diseases. Insulin sensitivity, heart health, and body composition acknowledged improving with regular exercise. Which additionally performs a meaningful role in weight loss.
It doesn't matter if you're a gym freak or someone who goes to the gym on weekends. It's critical to understand your equipment and its functions.
So, without further ado, here are the top 10 best gym equipment for your training.
Air Bike
Let's begin with Air Bike. It is well-known to the majority of people.
An air bike is beneficial because it assists you in producing all of the resistance. The more you pedal, the more the fan pushes you back. It's the equipment for performing high-intensity interval exercises. Your upper body will be strengthened and toned as a result of this.
Punching Bag
A full-body cardio workout should be your first focus, and a punching bag is a great way to round out the Workout.
Punching bags can be an easy method to get a comprehensive cardio exercise. It's a fantastic method to relieve life's stress. So get at it!
Treadmill
Treadmills offer a simple and effective cardio workout. Treadmills are simple pieces of workout equipment to use.
The treadmill possesses a steady exterior that is much milder to steer than sidewalks, curbs, or trails, and it lessens the hazard of tripping.
In general, users may create their own plans to match the time they have to exercise.
Treadmill exercising burns more calories than most different sorts of in-home exercises.
Dumbbells
Dumbbells are less costly and more adaptable than weight-training equipment, but they are more difficult to operate. They can be taken in normal workouts as part of a well-rounded shape regimen. Because dumbbells are affordable, you may get a set of various weights for a reasonable price.
When you utilize dumbbells, your range of motion isn't limited, so you may gain strength while moving through a complete or partial range of motion and doing several exercises. But there's a snag! You risk injury when you improperly use them. Your Workout will be less successful in building strength.
Pull-Up Bar
Pull-ups are not the same as chin-ups. Your palms and hands should face you when doing a chin-up.
The pull-up is an advanced workout. It's a more challenging variation of the chin up and a crucial Workout. Then there's the pull-up bar's role.
One of the most efficient workouts for strengthening the back muscles is the pull-up. Pull-ups also aid in the development of grip strength. If you lift weights, you need to have good grip strength. Pull-ups are an advanced strength training exercise to master. Hence the friendship of your pull-up bar with you is vital!
Rowing Machine
A rowing machine is a must-have among your equipment requirements! Rowing strengthens the cardiovascular system. It is in charge of delivering vital elements throughout the body, such as nutrition and oxygen.
Barbell Set
The barbell is a longer variant of the dumbbell used in free weightlifting and competitive sports like powerlifting. This machine can do a wide range of exercises, including bench press, deadlift, and bicep curl. An all-rounder tool, if you will! In general, standard barbells are 5 to 6 feet long and weigh 15 to 25 pounds.
Cable Pulley Machines
For severe weight training, cable machines are a feasible alternative, although they are for beginners. Sharpening your balance, on the other hand is perpetually an excellent idea, no matter how advanced you are. When working out with dumbbells, you're most of the time battling against gravity: you lift the weight and then lower it. You can, however, work your body at an angle with cable pulley machines.
Elliptical
One of the most underappreciated pieces of equipment that the majority of people are unaware of. However, since you're reading this, you won't make that mistake. You may get a terrific aerobic exercise on the elliptical machine, which can improve your lungs, heart, and muscles. As a result, your stamina and endurance will improve.
One of the fewer cardio tools that can proffer you an upper- and lower-body workout is an elliptical machine including handlebars. On an elliptical, you may adjust the resistance and slope of the foot pedals. You may target different muscles in your lower body this way.
Exercise Balls
Last but not least, we provide you with a workout ball. Exercise balls are a popular and adaptable piece of training equipment for home or the gym. The exercise ball is utilized to help with balance, muscular tone, and core strength.
It aids in the construction of overall control and durability of the core body muscles. And to enhance balance and stability.
Conclusion
Exercising has several advantages! Managing a healthy level of liveliness grips muscles strong and joints and ligaments flexible, empowering you to move more freely and avoid injury. The current epidemic has jolted us all up.
Even in terms of your mental health. It is aided by exercise. In the brain, exercise increases blood flow and oxygen levels. It also promotes the release of neurotransmitters in the brain.
Everyone should engage in some form of physical activity. It isn't rocket science that no one can grasp.
What are you waiting for now that you know all ten of the tools you'll need for your workout?
Post updated on: Aug 8, 2021 1:23:44 PM
Once there lived a billionaire in a town. The billionaire was in a search of a guard, who could look after his palace. One morning, he went for a walk. He saw a young boy, at the corner of the road, playing music. After seeing that, the billionaire got very impressed by the young boy. The billionaire then went to the young boy and introduced himself. After introducing himself, the billionaire said to the boy, "I have a wonderful opportunity for you. " The boy then asked the billionaire, "Sir, may I know, about which opportunity you are talking all about? " The billionaire then replied, "I am looking for a guard, who could look after my palace. " "Further he added, the guard who would be hired, would get a prestigious house to live, good new clothes to wear, delicious food to eat and several other prestigious facilities along with a handsome pay. So I would like to offer this opportunity to you so from when would you prefer joining it? "
After listening to the billionaire, the young boy said, "Sir, I am very thankful to you for offering me such a wealthy opportunity but I am sorry for not accepting it. " After hearing the young boy, the billionaire surprisingly said, " You are so foolish, rejecting the wonderful opportunity. " Further he added, "by performing this work, you will not be able to earn a good pay but you can become a wealthy man by accepting my offer. " Hearing to this, the young boy immediately replied, "Sir, I am a musician.. this is not only my livelihood, but it's more a passion to me. Music is in my each and every breathe, how can I do away with it? " By doing so, I'll certainly die. " After listening to the young boy, the billionaire gave a gentle smile and went away.
Thus real wealth lies within, in Willingness, Fulfilment, Happiness and
Peace...
Post updated on: Aug 8, 2021 7:39:04 AM
Toasting A Lady In My 100level.
It was in 100level we met in the science lecture theatre. Being a guy that loves knowing and seeing new friends I got attached to her.
She was bearing my surname as well, so I guess fate brought us together. " Agada " my surname was also her surname.
It was on a Friday we met, yes after the Gst111 class was over. It was the last lecture for the week so I just waited for a little before going to the class to read through my Mth111.
" Is that Phy 111 you have there? " I asked.
" Yes, it is. " She replied.
" But the cover is different. Mine is not the same as yours. " I showed her my textbook.
" Ohh yes that's true! Am from Agric Economics Department, so our textbook is different from that of College of Science, so as College of Engineering. " She replied with a smile.
" Do you mind if I check through your textbook? " I asked.
" Sure you can. Why not join me here. " She said.
" Ok then! " I withdrew to her row, as we sat next to each other.
" So what's your name? " I asked.
" Am Agnes Agada and you? " She replied.
" Am Zion Peter, but you can also call me Peter Agada. " I replied.
" Agada!!! " She screamed.
I guess she did not believe me either.
That was how we talked for almost an hour, while I checked through the textbook to see if there was anything in her book that could be of help to me. I also discovered from her that we shared the same local government area.
" Sorry would you mind giving me your number? " I pleaded.
" Sure, dear. 080******67. " She called it for me.
" Ok, dear! I would call you later, let me go cover some topics in Mth111 in the library. " I told her.
" Haaa see me I forgot to ask of your department. " She sighed.
" It's normal! I am from the Department of Mathematics. " I replied.
" You don't mean it! Thank God I have seen someone that would be teaching me mathematics. " She smiled.
" Hmmm, maybe you would be the one to teach me sef. " I laughed.
" Don't joke with me. I would call you when I come to class later. " She replied.
That was how I got a new friend combined with my three male friends, so I have 4 friends now. A girl and three boys.
____
We started reading together. Most times she comes to class earlier than I do, so she kept her bag on a seat next to her so that we read together.
Am usually the long reading type: I read from 8 pm to 5 am most often. So I taught her to read all through the night, and she pretty became a genius in reading more than I did.
She was never satisfied. She read as if exams were holding the next day, from her i learnt " Perseverance " from this damsel. She is beautiful and cool.
____
One piece of advice my parent gave to me before stepping foot on campus, was never to allow distraction come near my studies and my dreams.
Agnes was not a distraction to me from the beginning, so I saw her just as a friend. I was not only reading with her, I have some course mate that we read in the same class with, but not the same seat as I and Agnes did.
The ministry was moving to the permanent site.
____
Suddenly I became attracted to Agnes in another way, I wasn't seeing her just like a friend again, neither was she an enemy.
I started caring more than I did just to a friend, it wasn't a big distraction but I noticed jealousy and bitterness anytime I see her with another guy.
Knowing she was single, and seeing the green light she showed I was also aware she liked me too. But!
" Remember not all green light means go. Some traffic lights malfunction most often causing accidents. "
We still read as normal, relate as normal even when love steeped in.
You are human! So having feelings is not bad, but hope it won't distract you?
____
So I asked most of my friends in parables which would be the best. I did not refer to the issue as being mine but just asking.
" It's good for the person to say it! Then allow it disturbing," they said.
But I told my very tight friend in school then. We knew before getting admission, he is studying Mechanical Engineering.
" Verem How you see this stuff! Should I go? " I asked john mark. ( Verem is his tribal name. )
" Me I don't like that Agnes of a girl. She has an ego and I feel she is just using you as an escort and so on," he replied.
" Johnny I said I like this girl, which one is ego? " I asked.
" Hmmm, Peroo don't come complaining later. I am not in support of that girl. Even if you must date. Not Agnes! " he replied.
" Ok. I have heard you. " I changed the topic.
While all these inquiries were going on, my love was growing.
Celebrate grace!
____
So I prepared one day to ask her out.
We normally walk a little when sleep starts in. We just walk around the classroom block so to chase sleep away.
So that faithful day she said she wanted to sit outside for some time, so I said I would sit with her.
" God is behind me! Agnes hardly stays outside for long. " I celebrated in my heart.
After we sat down, I tried to tell her but I couldn't because my heart was beating so fast.
How will I start? What would be her response? Are you sure she likes you? All this ran through my mind.
So I halted the process and told her I would be going back to read.
" Just now we sat here! And you want to leave? Please stay before boys would come and start disturbing me. " She pleaded.
" So you mean??..? " I asked.
____
Anytime she sees me talking to a girl she would just cough and greet me. I would go and start explaining myself better.
" She is just a friend. We met?? Do you know that my guy? Yes, she is his sister. " I narrated.
" I know! " she answered with her suspicious looks.
____
So one faithful Thursday eve I called her so we could walk around the school because we barely do.
So we saw, walked a little, and sat somewhere. It wasn't dark then.
" But Peter you haven't ever asked who my boyfriend is! " she asked me.
My heart started beating very fast for no just cause.
" I did not see it important, by the way, you told me you were single all this while. " I replied.
" Not single again! I gave him a yes yesterday, I now have a boyfriend," she replied.
" I...don..t g..e..t! " I stuttered.
" I mean am not single again! " she replied with a smile.
" Hope all is well? " she asked.
" Yes all is well " I pretended and smiled at her.
____
I did not cry! I did not frown?. I was depressed.
My motivation became my distraction? I don't know how I got over it.
But sincerely it wasn't easy. 😭😭😭😭😭
And now I have always killed any feeling of love. If you see me, you see me as a freeman.
Not scared of love. But not ready for that ugly incident again?
To my young generation never be distracted, pursue your dreams.
Don't let love lead to suicide.
Don't let love lead to sin.
Don't let love lead to you losing your mind.
Based on a true-life story.
? Zion Peter Jnr
#CBN#CBN
Post updated on: Aug 7, 2021 3:35:11 PM
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